What happens? How will you respond? More importantly how do you want to be when it doesn’t work and you’re left with no solution?
This is an important distinction to make. Because failure isn’t just about what happened. It’s about how you behaved when your careful intentions and planning didn’t work out.
It’s easy to want to give up. Say it’s fu–ed up and nothing will make it better. To use resignation speech. But that doesn’t make it go away. And the same problem or situation will exist tomorrow. And a crappy attitude will not serve you well when you need it the most.
This. Is. So. Damn. Hard.
It just is.
We want to be rescued. But even with all the support in the world you’re still responsible for your life and your kids and your job and your behavior. You have to rescue yourself.
You won’t always win. But being the person you want to be in the most difficult situations even if they don’t end how you want them to is a victory in itself.
So how do you get there?
Practice. Be intentional. Stick to it no matter what. Relinquish control when you need to. Pray. Evolve your practice as you grow and learn. Keep an eye towards the future and your ideal self.
Progress is possible. And a lesson I have been learning since I was young is to go easy on yourself. The challenges we face are so hard. No one has a clear answer and yet we forge ahead.
When it doesn’t work persevere, adapt, and focus on how your ideal self would behave. Rinse and repeat for your whole life.
Thanks for reading.
