A kind friend today told me that I was being too hard on myself. It was a simple loving statement. And I’ve been thinking about it ever since.
I have been so hard on myself lately. And I have felt so down. And I realized today after she said it how true it was. I was treating myself like crap. Being cruel and unforgiving and harsh. I heard how I was talking about myself and it felt like I was somewhere else watching. Like I wasn’t even there.
And I decided to stop.
It doesn’t help me heal and grow. It stunts my progress. And it sets a bad example for everyone else for how I want to be treated. And ultimately I don’t deserve it.
This is just a gentle remind to you. If you’re beating yourself up or talking badly about yourself, first hear it. Then acknowledge it. Then stop. And don’t keep beating yourself up for beating yourself up. How absurd we can become sometimes.
My mom always used to say “sweetheart go easy on yourself.” It’s ok to have high standards. But it’s not ok to abuse yourself for not being perfect. Or for struggling or feeling down. Or for needing help and love and comfort.
I’m grateful for this friend for pointing out how I was treating myself in a loving way. And helping me stop raking myself over the coals for no good reason.
