Its not even the physical. Kids running around. Climbing. Touching everything. Pouring Talking Rain on the couch. Eating a five month old Fruit Loop. Pooping. Peeing. Barfing. Crying. It’s chaos. But it’s the chaos in your head that needs to be sorted out.
How to sort through literal overstimulation? It’s hard. Learning to quiet your mind in the midst of utter insanity isn’t something that you just know once you have kids. It’s a skill that takes time and practice and failure and refining and prioritizing.
Finding calm so you can deal feels so counterintuitive when what you want to do is scream. Punch the wall. Embrace your frustration. Throw a tantrum. But it’s all about me me me.
The problem is we have a choice. We have a choice to be jerks. We have a choice to be lazy. We have a choice to allow our frustration to take over. And it is so hard. Don’t misunderstand me. I know how hard this is. Parenting or any endeavor that truly matters.
But what if we didn’t have a choice? No luxury of waking away or giving in to anger’s grip? What does that look like? How inventive and innovative can we be in how we parent, collaborate, build, work? What tactics and tricks and tools can we develop that we can come back to in trying times? What can we learn and share and witness when we remove the luxury of being angry?
When you have utter f—ing chaos the only solution is to own it and adapt.
Good luck.
