Hold Em Close

Soon enough they’ll be too big too hold. Soon enough they’ll be too busy with friends. Soon enough they’ll be out the door and on their way to college. This. This moment right here. Won’t last forever. It will be gone before you know it. Don’t waste it. Regret it. Or miss out. Be...

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Always Imperfect

That’s how life we will. We set ourselves up for failure and disappointment expecting things to be perfect. To work every time. To be smooth and worry free. It’s going to be bumpy. It’s going to be wonderful and tragic. It will continually be a surprise and a challenge and a joy. If we...

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Get Through

You take vows. You commit. You grow your family. It isn’t all a wedding day or a celebration. It isn’t all fun. Or relaxing. Or easy. You don’t often know the way. But you don’t give up. No matter how hard – you get through. You persevere. You believe. That belief is the foundation...

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Why?

Such a complex question. It’s more than one layer. It’s more than ten layers. Understanding why you feel something is messy and deep and difficult. It’s why we fail so often. And it’s why we can change and succeed if we dig deep enough and do the work of understanding. I still don’t fully...

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Catching Up

Sometimes you just have to catch up. There aren’t enough hours in the day. You can’t get things done because too many other intrusions pop up. And it’s even enjoyable and satisfying to have some quiet moments to get the work done. Work doesn’t always have to be conventional in how you get it...

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F—ing Chaos

Its not even the physical. Kids running around. Climbing. Touching everything. Pouring Talking Rain on the couch. Eating a five month old Fruit Loop. Pooping. Peeing. Barfing. Crying. It’s chaos. But it’s the chaos in your head that needs to be sorted out. How to sort through literal overstimulation? It’s hard. Learning to quiet...

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There Are No Answers

You’ll ask and ask and ask around. But no one will know. You’ll do research online. Forums. Chat rooms. No one will know. You’ll buy books by experts and they still won’t know. No one knows. Because you’re looking for your answers. They can only give theirs. And that won’t work for you. There...

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When All Else Fails

Say a prayer. Keep your heart close to what matters most. Love. It’s not easy to be that strong all the time. And it does take strength to persevere. But the alternative isn’t better than what we hope for ourselves and our lives. Momentarily it may release angst and anger and frustration. But it...

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When It Doesn’t Work

What happens? How will you respond? More importantly how do you want to be when it doesn’t work and you’re left with no solution? This is an important distinction to make. Because failure isn’t just about what happened. It’s about how you behaved when your careful intentions and planning didn’t work out. It’s easy...

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