To resist is the opposite of to embrace. Both require energy and effort. One requires the power to push back. The other the strength to let go. For some reason we choose resistance even when we know letting go will lead to something better, more meaning or growth. We are human. Imperfect. We slip...
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Every lifetime is an evolution. We learn as we go and ideally continue to learn until the day we die. While we may grow older we are still growing even if we are heading to some sort of inevitability. It’s impossible not to look back on our younger selves as we age in years....
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Because if we say no definitively then we have to do the hard work of figuring something out. Of solving the problem. And it’s always easier to have an in, however backward and manipulative it may be, than it is to find another way....
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The wins. The losses. The promotions. The money. Belongings. Things. They are fleeting. The love we cultivate and nurture. That is enduring. Nothing matters more. The love. Te amo. Always....
Continue readingWhen They’re All Bad
Sometimes the ideas just aren’t good. The words don’t flow. Nothing makes sense. It feels pointless. But as I told a friend just the other day “the catharsis is more important than the final product.” So I’ve got to live those words too. And stick with the process. Write. The. Words. Sometimes that’s all...
Continue readingAnother Way To Think About Goals
How often do we get to the end of the day having worked for eight or more hours and we feel like we’ve made no progress. We feel stuck. Behind. Anxious. Where did the time go? Because of this we carry work over into our personal lives and stress about what we didn’t get...
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Tonight the boys were playing with their Octonaut toys in the bath. After the water had drained they called for me, panicked. Their little plastic salamander had gotten wedged in the drain and they couldn’t get it out. I immediately reassured them but both boys began to cry. The more I tried to soothe...
Continue readingMistakes Are A Signal
When you start making mistakes frequently there’s a couple of things likely going on. Either you’re trying to go too fast. Or you’ve got too many moving parts to what you’re doing. Mistakes are a signal to slow down or streamline. Sounds easy. But in practice it’s much harder to execute. It is funny...
Continue readingChock Full Of Nuts
Library holds lapse. Writing stalls. The new year came and went and I didn’t set any resolutions. But I am busy as hell at work and home. And doing important work with both. Rather than focusing on what I’m not doing. Or that I’m not doing something grand. I’m just trying to take little...
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What seems impossible becomes less so when you do it together. Sure we can get through, survive, persevere, but it’s togetherness in some way shape or form that allows us to thrive. I see this in family and work. Massive change. Hardships. Unexpected burdens. Suddenly become lighter with others around. What we are going...
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