Sitting on a stone sulking is one way to deal with a problem. Ruminating on what went wrong. Feeling our feels. But that doesn’t get you anywhere. And isn’t that essentially what all your effort was for? To move you forward? To get somewhere that matters to you? Sulking and feeling sorry for ourselves...
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Today was hard. I’ve run the gamut of emotions and now I’m exhausted. Ready for the peace of a little bit of sleep. Though I know it won’t be many hours. And the little ones will stir and need us. There’s always someone or something else that needs us more than we need something....
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What gets you out of bed in the morning? Besides coffee… Is it … Possibility Newness An exiting event Ok, coffee A new adventure Dinner plans A podcast What makes you want to stay in bed and hide? Is it … Possibility Too many choices Responsibilities Hate your job No social life Fear of...
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How do you know when you’ve got it right? When you’re solving a problem for someone else. How do you know what you want? When you can say it out loud. How do you know who wants what you have? By having conversations, engaging, showing empathy, and listening for the problem they want solved....
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How do you know when you’ve got it right? How do you know what you want? How do you know who wants what you have? How do you know where to find them? How do you know you’ve found the thing you need to do? How do you know you need to do it?...
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Instead of Blaming, partner Talking, listen Excusing, admit you were wrong Fighting, compromise Hoarding, be generous Waiting, act Tearing down, build up Criticizing, self-reflect Withholding, extend a hand Sacrificing, push back Apologizing, own a better future Asking for more, do more with less Limiting, expand your reach. I could go on. But you get...
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I had dinner with four lovely friends tonight. I don’t get out often but it was so nice to spend some time with wonderful people and listen to all their stories about their unique lives. I was sparked several times during our conversation by what they shared. And I realized something. We all have...
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When I was young a neighborhood bully took my new bike and ramped it up the side of a tree, then pulled my hair. I ran home to tell my mom. She comforted me but then she said “wait here.” I watched her march down the street to the bully’s house. I remember the...
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One thing I’ve learned in The Bootstrapper’s Workshop is to let go of preconceived notions. Or at least to try. It’s amazing when presented with a straightforward problem just how hard it is to do this. But there is real magic in going through this process of exploration and stretching the way you think...
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What’s the one job in your life that matters the most? The hardest job? Why is it so important? Why is it so hard? Why do you persevere? What I’ve learned is that as hard as it gets I have to stay positive and hopeful. It’s easy to fall into despair and pity myself....
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