Like I could just pick up the phone and call you. Seems so natural. When I’m watching the boys do something silly. I just want to share it with you. And then I remember. But it’s not painful. It’s more a reminder of how close you still are to me. A testimony to how...
Continue readingHow Valuable Are You?
Chances are you don’t know. Or you’ve forgotten. Or you’ve beaten yourself up and lost sight of your value. Often the stories we right in our own heads don’t really align with reality. We tell ourselves we aren’t good enough when in fact we are and then some. No one else can tell you...
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Wow. What you can learn in one day is astounding. Here are a few things I’ve learned: I cause my own unhappiness Being in the room is not the same as being present Laughter is so much better than anger Empathy is a skill that can change your life I can do better The...
Continue readingTomorrow Is A New Day
And therefore I have hope. Hugs....
Continue readingCastle On A Cloud
My mom played the piano. My brothers and I would sing Christmas carols or Phantom of the Opera, Les Mis and others. She always wanted me to sing Castle On A Cloud. I never thought I had a particularly good voice. But I could sing. And I sang it when she wanted me to....
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= Separate or cause to separate into pieces as a result of a blow, block, or strain. And sometimes you have to break to heal. It’s painful, arduous, scary. We are exposed. Our limitations on display. But a break can heal twice as strong as it was before. So we can’t give up. No...
Continue readingIt’s Gonna Be Ok
These are important words to hear. I am all for self-reliance. But sometimes it’s helpful to hear the support of a loved one. Someone who knows what you’re going through and cares. Someone who can reassure you when times are tough. Be strong. Be resilient. Persevere. But also it’s not weak to be comforted...
Continue readingPut Your Foot Down
When do you do it? Say no more. This is done. When the harm being done outweighs any of the good. It can be like getting out of an abusive situation. There’s always glimmers of hope and small wins here and there that keep you hanging on. Playing on your nature to give just...
Continue readingThere’s No Perfect
Tonight I read a silly little book to my son before bed. It had little furry patches on the animals bellies. And each time he touched one he giggled with delight. It made me smile. And laugh. And changed my mood entirely. It had been a tough day (week, month) for a number of...
Continue readingFight Or Flight
Sometimes my baseline response to pain can get the better of me. If someone gives me difficult feedback or criticizes me it can make me want to run or fight. And those instincts are good in many cases. They keep me safe or allow me to defend what’s mine and what I believe in....
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