Things I’ve done since the election: – checked in with friends and family – revisited a book I’m writing and started revising it again – donated to charity (Philadelphia City Rowing) – worked out harder and channeled my anger into making my body healthy and strong – prioritized my health – checkups, vaccinations, time...
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To drop my son off at his previous school, we took the elevator from the garage up to the 3rd floor. When I picked him up he always asked to take the stairs to the escalator to the elevator to get to the car instead of just taking the elevator. My instinct was to...
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Today I was chatting with my son and he asked me something. I said “I’m not opposed to it.” And he said “does that mean you’re not open to it?” And he asked me what “opposed” meant. I said opposed means against something. So when I say “not opposed” I mean I’m not against...
Continue readingThe Front Of The Line
You can get to the front of the line by cutting in front of others or you can wait your turn. You can shine by turning the spotlight on yourself or shining it on others. But doesn’t waiting and lifting others up mean I don’t get the attention I deserve? Isn’t that passive instead...
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Way back in 2003 I attended the pair camp at the University of Washington. I ended up making the top pair and got to end the camp by competing at US Nationals in Camden, NJ. My pair partner and I raced in the beginner, intermediate, and elite pair races. We did great in both...
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The illusion is that you’re just running around the track. In reality there are hurdles on every lap. Some are small as to be almost unnoticeable. Others you can’t possibly jump over without help. Others you slam right into. And they’re usually similar in height and frequency. And that’s life. Laps and hurdles. You...
Continue readingThe Lag and the Catch Up
Have you ever crammed for a test? Or overloaded yourself with information on a subject you were trying to master? You study for hours on end trying to learn the concepts and remember them. And then you take the test and you find you haven’t actually mastered all the ideas. Maybe you get an...
Continue readingAdvice To Myself
Be your own champion. No one is gonna fight harder for you than you will fight for yourself. Understand that a setback is not the end. It’s a chance for you to know your worth and to forge ahead. Things that come easy tend to come back and bite you in the ass. You...
Continue readingLight And Noise
I have light and noise all day. I like dark and quiet at either end of it. Sometimes we say things without thinking and then realize how poignant they are. It’s not surprising that I like dark and quiet in the morning and again at night. Most mornings I’m reluctant to have the sun...
Continue readingLonging
The urge to call you to tell you something silly The longing for your hugs Or to sit in a quiet room with you But more likely watching Chopped and listening to you say crazy things at the tv You had a sick sense of humor when you wanted to I think of all...
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