Tonight I read a silly little book to my son before bed. It had little furry patches on the animals bellies. And each time he touched one he giggled with delight. It made me smile. And laugh. And changed my mood entirely. It had been a tough day (week, month) for a number of...
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Sometimes my baseline response to pain can get the better of me. If someone gives me difficult feedback or criticizes me it can make me want to run or fight. And those instincts are good in many cases. They keep me safe or allow me to defend what’s mine and what I believe in....
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I remember your faces and dances. The stories you’d tell me about all the goofy things you’ve done. It made me smile. I hadn’t thought about how silly you were for quite some time. It was one of the first times in a long while that I didn’t cry and get upset when thinking...
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Is worth examining. Rather than writing someone or something off. It’s a time to reflect. To understand where your passions come from and what you believe. It’s a chance to grow. We should be wary when we get the urge to dig our heels in deeper. We may not be wrong. But it’s important...
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You go up. And you go down. To expect a flat ride out of life would not only be absurd it would be so boring. Ride the highs and endure the lows. You can’t have one without the other. It’s still a beautiful journey that we get to live out....
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That is what can become of our dreams, the things that matter to us, if we don’t pay attention. And we need to pay attention. To ponder what matters to us. So we can keep committing to it over and over again. If we don’t pay attention one day passes. Then another. And then...
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What matters is right now in this moment. I’m singing to you while you look at me. I feel the warmth of your little body fresh from the bath. I smell your baby smell. The nightlight glowing soft and warm in the corner of the room. The future is undefined. It will be what...
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Two things I learned today. 1. Don’t assume people want to help. Or know how to help. 2. Don’t over share There are assholes everywhere. And they might not even intend to be. But they end up being that way because they don’t know how to communicate. Or make assumptions. Or don’t know how...
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If it scares you, it’s probably worth doing. Don’t let fear, a very natural biological response stop you from doing things that matter. You’ll get past the fear in the first five minutes. And the rewards are greater than the initial anxiety you face. Facing your fears, doing things that take you out of...
Continue readingDon’t Waste Them
Right now I’m feeling so grateful that my family is safe at home. It’s so easy to make our lives feel routine and secure and predictable. But we are all tenuous in reality. We can’t predict the behavior of other people or random things that might happen. All the more reason to say I...
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