It doesn’t always have to be a story. What should I write about? If I have to ask that question am I even a writer? Does it even matter when my wife is in the next room struggling to get our three year old to sleep. So much uncertainty. Worry. Like swallowing a whole...
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Oh boy is parenting hard. The overwhelming worry. The crying. Disrupted sleep. Lack of alone time. It’s an all day all life job. But. There is something about being a parent that makes every single bit of the good and ugly and hard absolutely worth it. Something. Everything. I watch my boys grow. Crawl....
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Reflection is greater than judgement Consider rather than dismiss Gentleness is better than aggression Anger is necessary but not when it’s meant to hurt, only to defend and protect Create space rather than placing limits Remember but don’t dwell Forge ahead even when it feels impossible Love at all costs, always, with everything you...
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A thousand kisses on your cheek Are not enough Endless and infinite is the love I have for you I hope you feel it I wonder at you I marvel, how can you be? I know you’re not perfect but you’re so wonderful it astounds me Luck doesn’t even begin to convey what I...
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We are all hard in some ways. To expect smooth edges only is unrealistic. It’s often not the expectations of others that we fail to live up to but our own. Which is why it’s so hard to be kind to ourselves. And even more important why we should. For every wrong I also...
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Slightly drunk. Open minded. Listening. Talking. Big ideas. Learning. The world full of possibility and growth. Young and eager. Hours and hours of discussion. Rambling topic to topic. Change is possible and craved. Hardening. Closing off. Holding on to things. Right. Wrong. Me. You. Us. Them. Proving. Ignoring. Justifying. Arguing. Stagnation. Isolation. Death. Waste....
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Listen first. Focus on partnership before ownership. Do your pre-work. You look like a bigger asshole when you don’t. Don’t interrupt. Which also means let people talk. Let others be the expert. Make things happen by getting out of others way. Railroading is not a form of project management. I’m sure there are many...
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When I hold Julian at bedtime he looks at me. Directly in the eyes. There is a twinkle. I can’t help but smile. He’s questioning me. Testing me. Finding the line. My smile gets wider. And when he sees me smile his lips part and his goofy teeth show through in a huge grin....
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I think of the things that might make a truly exceptional organization is the ability to take feedback. To humble yourself no matter your pedigree or tenure. To listen to views other than your own. And to challenge your own assumptions. This promotes diversity of thought and encourages other voices to speak up and...
Continue readingI’m astounded by the number of people in my feed who have managed to make these protests and riots about themselves. Who can’t understand why what’s happening is happening. Who have managed to ignore the giant fucking purple elephant in the room – the abundant and abhorrant institutional racism against black people that exists...
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