“I grow old. I grow old. I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.” This was a quote from a computer game from junior high I think. And my friend Kristi and I thought it was the funniest thing ever. We must have said it to each other a thousand times and laughed...
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Love is walking around the ancient ruins of Rome with your 23 year old daughter. Love is the top of your femur grinding directly into the socket of your hip with each step and doing your best to mask the pain. Love is waiting until the whole family is together before you take your...
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Sometimes it’s just junk. Get rid of it. Or don’t post it. Clear it out. Throw it away. Get it out of your system and move on. Roses can handle a heavy amount of pruning and grow back stronger than ever. And our art is the same. I’m not saying burn everything you’ve written...
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Writing is the one thing we can do that has no limits. You can only live so long. Our lives are regimented and scheduled and filled with endless noise. Writing is the one place in the world where nothing but us and our imagination exist in infinite possibility. If that’s not a reason to...
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A day without email. No meetings. No pings on chat applications. No work questions. A rare day. An in between day. I’m astounded at how much breathing room I feel even after one day. How little anxiety even though I’m about to start something new. My mind can focus on the task at hand....
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When I was young I thought days were infinite. They felt long and drawn out and full of possibility. I don’t remember feeling tired when I was young. But as I’ve grown older each day feels shorter. More finite. And heavier somehow. Like time is ticking away. Heaviness feels like a perpetual state lately....
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If you don’t speak confidently about yourself who will? When given the chance to share your story don’t feel you have to talk yourself down. You’ve lived your life and know what you’ve been through and accomplished. And you know it better than anyone. If you undervalue yourself you will be undervalued elsewhere. It...
Continue readingWhat Is This Feeling?
I have felt this feeling before. At other times in my life. Feeling like I’m stuck where I am but knowing that I’m capable of more. That I will do more. That I have to put in the time. Be deliberate. Stay focused. I felt this way in 2009 when I was trying to...
Continue readingSpend More Time In Low Stakes
Too much of what we do is high stakes. Fire fighting. Focus on end goals and not process. Your average day might feel really busy doing all the things as fast as possible but at the end of the day you might not be able to quantify what you actually did. Because of the...
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When you’re stuck it’s hard to see just how stuck you are. Usually you finally see it either because you have a breakdown or someone else points out the change they’ve seen in you, or both. Then you feel even worse for a moment. It’s exhausting and daunting because now that you know you’re...
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